神經系統最重要的運作規則是，自己選擇要重視的重點，一定會成長茁壯；自己選擇忽略的小事，都會自動變弱。有鑑於此，如果你反覆地在解決問題，未來只會看到更多問題。你應該努力喚醒自己與其他團隊成員內在的天賦。

要能真正做到這一點，可以採行下列幾項務實的作法：

■ 拋開預設立場以及成見，讓每個人展現自己的特性。不要對任何人抱持成見，要關注他們為了將來成就播下的種子。

■ 不斷進行前饋。你希望其他人將來有什麼樣的表現，對待他們的方式就要符合他們未來的表現，而不是根據他們過去的成績。

■ 設法多多稱讚夥伴，至少每14天要稱讚他們一次。用一些小小的驚喜，增進他們跟你之間的互動。

■ 跨出自己的舒適區，拋開頭腦既定的運作常軌，不斷去做新穎、有原創性的事情。

■ 組成百花齊放的團隊，認同並且讚揚團隊成員的個人表現，不要規定所有成員都彈同調。

■ 弄清楚自己有沒有有意或是無意地做了什麼事，會阻礙其他成員發揮他們最大的能力。

■ 要坦坦蕩蕩，實踐自己的承諾，為自己的行為以及決定負責。

只要清楚自己的目的和哲學，你就會開始將成功視為擴展人生目的的手段，而非停止工作、每天躺在泳池畔享受人生的途徑。這就是為何1986年3月13日微軟上市沒讓比爾．蓋茲迷失方向的原因。儘管比爾．蓋茲身價爆增3.5億美元，但他仍然堅持每天上班。他從微軟執行長轉任軟體架構長，因為這是他一直以來的目的。到他離開微軟之時，他的淨資產已經達到500億美元。

另一個很好的例子是麥可．喬丹。據估計，他在1980年代的職業籃球生涯中賺進了9000萬美元。由於各種贊助，麥可．喬丹退休時的身價達到4億至5億美元。兩年後，喬丹沒有窩在沙灘，而是回來把他的全部年薪捐給911慈善機構。當他無法再打球時，他買下一支籃球隊。時至今日，麥可．喬丹身價高達19億美元。

當席維斯．史特龍寫出《洛基》劇本時，他是個三餐不繼的演員，靠著每週26美元的收入與10個人合租一層公寓過活。1970年代，有人向史特龍出價36萬美元購買劇本，但他拒絕了。他知道自己的目的是在那部電影裡親自扮演洛基，再多的錢也不能使他改變心意。事實證明洛基確實是個突破性角色，而今，席維斯．史特龍已被公認是好萊塢史上最成功的人士之一。

有感染力的慷慨不單單只是開支票，事實上，許多最令人讚嘆、最具感染力的慷慨善行，往往是針對特定需求，付出時間、精力、才能和愛。慷慨可以有很多不同的形式，無論個人財力如何，人人都能做到慷慨。

不用金錢就能展現慷慨的絕佳方式如下：

1 轉移關注──一行禪師教導，關注是我們能給予他人最寶貴的禮物，倫敦理髮師喬許．庫姆斯就是一個例子，他為無家可歸者免費理髮，聆聽他們的故事，並在社群媒體分享。這種簡單的關注行為創造了

2 搭建橋梁──搭橋是指主動接觸與我們有衝突的人。社會公義內容創作者狄倫．麥隆透過與網路酸民對話消弭彼此的隔閡，不僅促進相互理解，同時也促成一系列播客節目。雞農克雷格．沃茨和動物權益活動人士莉亞．加爾塞斯合作揭露工廠化養殖現況，找到共同點並激發變革。

3 分享知識──分享知識是一種強大的慷慨之舉。薩爾曼．可汗創建備受讚譽的可汗學院，提供免費線上教育，就是一個很好的例子。他的YouTube教學影片演變成一個全球教育平台，展示了分享知識如何創造長遠的正面影響。

The cardinal rule of nervous systems is that whatever you choose to emphasize always grows stronger while whatever gets ignored automatically weakens. With this in mind, if you stay mired in fixing problems all the time, all you'll see are more problems in the future. A better approach is to work hard at awakening the inner genius in yourself and in the others on your team.

Some practical ways to actually do this are:

■ Forget your predictions and labels, and let everyone be unique. Don't label anyone but look at what they contribute for the seeds of future greatness.

■ Relentlessly feedforward. Treat others on the basis of how you want them to be in the future, not how they have been.

■ Find ways to compliment people more frequently, at least once every fourteen days. Use small surprises to enrich their interactions with you.

■ Step outside your comfort zone and avoid the well established brain ruts. Do new and original things all the time.

■ Create teams where individualism is recognized and applauded rather than trying to get everyone seated on the same old bus.

■ Find out whether anything you're doing intentionally or otherwise stops others from doing their best work.

■ Live transparently. Honor your promises, take responsibility for your actions and be accountable for your choices.

Once you figure out your purpose and philosophy, you start to see prosperity as a means to expand the range of your purpose, as opposed to a way to stop working and lounge by the pool every day. That's why someone like Bill Gates didn't get distracted when Microsoft went public on March 13, 1986. Despite the fact he was suddenly worth $350 million, Bill Gates kept on going to work every day. He transitioned from being Microsoft's CEO to its chief software architect, because that was his purpose all along. By the time he finished at Microsoft, his net worth was $50 billion.

Another good example is Michael Jordan. It's estimated he made $90 million as a basketball player over the course of his career in the 1980s. Thanks t o endorsements, Michael Jordan was worth $400 -$500 million when he retired from playing. Rather than sit on a beach, Jordan came back two years later, donating his entire annual salary to the 9/11 charities. When he couldn't play any more, he bought a basketball team. Today, Michael Jordan is worth $1.9 billion.感謝

When Sylvester Stallone wrote the script for Rocky,he was a starving actor living for $26 a week sharing a floor with ten other people. Stallone was offered $360,000 for the script in the 1970s, but he turned it down. He knew it was his purpose to play Rocky in that film, and there was no amount of money which would distract him. Rocky did turn out to be a breakthrough role and today, Sylvester Stallone is considered to be one of the most successful people in the history of Hollywood.

Infectious generosity isn't solely about writing checks. In fact, many of the most awe-inspiring and infectious examples of generosity have been gifts of time, energy, talent, and love, tailored to a specific need. Generosity can take many different forms, and is open to all no matter what your financial resources are.

Here are ways to practice generosity that don't involve money:

1 Shift attention – Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh teaches that attention is the most precious gift we can give someone. Joshua Coombes, a London hairdresser, exemplifies this by offering free haircuts to homeless individuals, listening to their stories, and sharing them on social media. This simple act of paying attention created a movement.

2 Build bridges – bridging involves reaching out to those with whom we have conflicts. Dylan Marron, a social justice content creator, bridged gaps with his online trolls by conversing with them, leading to mutual understanding and also a podcast series. Craig Watts, a chicken farmer, and Leah Garces, an animal rights activist, collaborated to expose factory farming conditions, finding common ground and inspiring change.

3 Share knowledge – sharing knowledge is a powerful form of generosity. Sal Khan's creation of the highly acclaimed Khan Academy, offering free online education, is a prime example. His YouTube tutorials transformed into a global educational platform, demonstrating how sharing knowledgecan create lasting positive impacts.

推薦書單

NO.185 成功可以再輕鬆一點
Get Out of Your Own Way: The 5 Keys to Surpassing Everyone's Expectations
by 羅伯特．庫柏（Robert Cooper）

NO.788 立場即品牌
Your Stand Is Your Brand: How Deciding Who to Be (NOT What to Do) Will Revolutionize Your Business
by 派屈克．傑坦普（Patrick Gentempo）

NO.982 慷慨的感染力
Infectious Generosity: The Ultimate Idea Worth Spreading
by克里斯．安德森（Chris Anderson）
中文版：《慷慨的感染力》（時報出版，2024）